- Emotionally-Focused Therapy
- CBT and DBT techniques
- English and Spanish
About Toby
Toby Faye Mailman is a New York State licensed clinical social worker (LCSW) with 25 years of experience. She works with adults who are dealing with stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, low self-esteem, depression, relationship strain, grief, parenting challenges, anger, career questions, and major life changes.
Mailman describes her role as a coach who helps people notice the strengths they already have. She helps clients build skills they can use to answer questions or resolve dilemmas. She has worked with people from a variety of ethnicities, cultures, and sexual orientations, and pays attention to cultural norms when they matter in therapy.
Her practice favors a steady rhythm of sessions, often weekly or biweekly, so progress can be tracked and adjustments made. She asks clients to give advance notice when they need to change an appointment and expects the same courtesy in return.
Mailman uses several therapeutic approaches rather than a single method. She reports using Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT), attachment-based ideas, client-centered techniques, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) as tools she may draw on depending on a person’s needs. She notes that different approaches can be useful for the same person at different times.
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish. She practices in New York and brings long-term experience working with adult clients on grief, trauma, sleep problems, immigration-related concerns, and coping with chronic stress.
To begin, she asks prospective clients to complete a short questionnaire and schedule an initial meeting so they can decide together how to proceed.
How her approaches translate to online sessions
Toby uses Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) to help people name and work with strong emotions and the relational patterns that keep those emotions stuck. EFT can be useful when feelings are hard to identify or when relationship patterns repeat and cause pain. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early caregiving can shape present-day reactions and closeness; it helps people understand why they respond the way they do in relationships. Client-Centered Therapy focuses on the person’s experience in the moment and prioritizes listening, reflection, and the client’s own goals.Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. She will work with each client to pick methods that match their needs, goals, and preferences, and may combine techniques from different approaches as the work unfolds.
Session formats are not specified in the biography, so confirm current options before booking. In general, online sessions can make it easier to fit therapy into a busy schedule, reduce travel time, and allow shorter check-ins when needed. Talk with her when you schedule the first meeting to learn which session formats she currently offers and which will best fit your situation.
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Experience
25+ years
Listed in
New York
Languages
English, Spanish
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of problems does she address?
She works with adults on stress, anxiety, trauma and abuse, depression, grief, self-esteem, relationship issues, parenting strain, anger, career concerns, and coping with major life changes.
How would you describe her therapeutic style?
She frames her role as a coach who helps people identify strengths and build skills. She uses several approaches and adapts methods to what seems most useful for each person.
How much experience does she have?
She has practiced with individual adults since 2001, totaling 25 years of clinical work.
What are her credentials and where does she practice?
She is a New York State licensed clinical social worker (LCSW) and practices in New York.
Which languages are supported in sessions?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish.
Can international clients work with her?
International clients are not currently accepted.
How are sessions priced?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How do I get started?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
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