- Emotionally-Focused Therapy
- CBT techniques
- Sessions in Spanish
About Lilia
Lilia Gonzalez-Joly is a California-licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) with 16 years of clinical experience. She helps people address relationship strain, family conflict, trauma and abuse, and struggles with self-esteem and career direction. Sessions are offered in English and Spanish. Lilia’s work emphasizes clear conversation and practical steps rather than jargon or theory-heavy explanations.
Clients meet someone who listens and asks straightforward questions to clarify what matters most. She uses Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) alongside approaches like Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). Those methods shape how she notices emotions, patterns, and actions in everyday life.
In sessions she focuses on naming feelings, identifying repeating patterns, and trying small experiments to change stuck ways of interacting. Conversations often include exploring how past experiences affect current relationships and work, and practicing different responses to difficult feelings such as guilt or shame. Practical tools from CBT and ACT may be used to change unhelpful thoughts and behaviors.
Lilia also works with concerns around communication problems, forgiveness, life purpose, and self-love. Her Spanish-speaking clients can work in their preferred language when requested. She does not take international clients at this time.
To begin, prospective clients complete a short matching questionnaire and schedule a first session through the service’s online flow. Costs vary by location, and sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How her approaches translate to online work
Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) focuses on identifying and naming emotions and patterns in relationships. Online sessions can be used to notice these patterns, practice new ways of responding, and rehearse different conversations with guidance.Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people clarify values and commit to small actions that align with those values. In remote sessions this often looks like setting short experiments between meetings and checking in on progress together.
Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early relationship experiences affect current connections. Online sessions can review those patterns and map out new interaction options to try in daily life.
Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will discuss goals, preferences, and what seems most useful, then adjust methods as the work evolves. Clients and therapist decide together which tools to use and when to shift focus.
Session formats are not specified in the biography, so confirm current options before booking. The practical benefits of online work include fitting sessions into a busy schedule, avoiding travel time, and using shorter check-ins when needed. Online meetings also make language options easier to match since she offers both English and Spanish.
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Additional focus areas
Therapeutic approaches
Experience
16+ years
Listed in
California
Languages
English, Spanish
Frequently asked questions
What concerns does she help with?
She helps people with relationship strain, family conflict, trauma and abuse, self-esteem issues, and career questions.
What therapeutic approach does she use?
She uses Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) along with ACT, Attachment-Based Therapy, Client-Centered Therapy, and CBT to address emotions, patterns, and behavior.
How much clinical experience does she have?
She has 16 years of professional experience working with the concerns listed above.
What are her credentials and where is she based?
She is an LMFT licensed in California and practices with that credential in the state.
Which languages are offered in sessions?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish.
Can international clients work with her?
She is not accepting international clients at this time.
How much do sessions cost?
Cost varies by location and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I start working with her?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
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